"Oh Karthik! How can you even think of comparing kids with devils? Are you so hard-hearted?"
"Don't you remember the tamil song 'Kuzhandhayum dheivamum gunathaal ondru' (kids and God are same by character)?"
Well, even I am going to end the post as "Kids are like God" BUT NOT in the sense you all think.
I always take examples from my family. So have my Family Tree in another tab (or window) for easy reference.
I am typing this post with complete noise around me.
Sriranjani (2 yrs old) is eating for more than a hour. My mother almost lost her energy but still she manage to shout. While my mother got some hope that Sriranjani will finish eating in 10 more mins, Sri told "Paatti aai poganum" (Grandma, I have to go for toilet). Going, cleaning..... 30 more mins of eating after that.
Sriranjani is one super active kid. No one can match her energy level. She ll eat camphor, draw something on walls, go and pinch Nambirajan..... Hoof. Uncontrollable kid!
Nambirajan (1 months old) has got high fever. Yesterday only, I took his mother Kavitha to doctor since she too had fever. Kavitha is almost damaged. I call "Kavitha........." She started shouting "No one should call me"
Sudha is helpless in another room with fractured leg.
Vinu and Samvardhani are not troublesome now. But they were also troublesome till the age of 5. Vinu used to vomit everyday till her UKG. Sami had some breathing problem till the age of 3.
So how am I going to conclude that Kids are like God?
Believers of God usually say that God gives troubles to devotees so that they will always remember His presence.
Kids are also of same nature. They too give a lot of trouble and will always have our attention around them.
I insisted 2 children during my previous post. But also have in mind. You are going to have a tough time till the children attain at least an age of 5.
My father: Karthik, Bad news. Sudha fell down in her office while climbing down the stairs and got her leg fractured.
Karthik: Appa, shall I come?
My Father: Wait I will let you know
FYI, Sudha works and lives in Chengalpattu only.
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3:15PM
My Father: It seems the injury is heavy. It is difficult to cure in Chengalpattu. So we are going to shift her to MIOT hospital, Chennai through ambulance. So you start from Bangalore now and come to MIOT hospital straight away.
Karthik: Ok Appa, I will start now. I ll reach hospital probably by 10:30PM
Kavitha is already in Chengalpattu since she gave delivery to Nambirajan a month back. Latha also came to Chengalpattu and later she along with my father came to MIOT hospital. We 3 took different responsibilities.
Kavitha and my mother are taking care of Vinu, Sriranjani and Nambirajan. I was with my father helping him throughout the process. Latha is going to be the attender for my sister in hospital.
Sudha was operated on Saturday (21st Nov) and she was shifted to general ward from ICU yesterday (23rd Nov) and then only I returned back to Bangalore.
Only because, we 3 siblings were there, my parents were able to tackle the problem without any one else's help.
I have never felt, 4 children were too much for my parents. I (we) have always felt the importance of each sibling throughout my (our) life time.
Now I compare this with the ‘one child’ culture widely getting spread in our society these days. Our generation is planning a lot. We plan till retirement and come to a conclusion that 1 child is more than enough.
Leave alone disappearance of relationships like periamma, periappa, chithi, chithappa,mama etc (uncle, aunt) , leave alone population explosion of our country, there is another side to this 'one child' culture.
Who will be there for that son/daughter after the demise of their parents? Who will be there to participate in the goods and bads?
I am not recommending everyone to have 4 children. But it is advisable to have at least 2 children (be it of any combination boy-boy, boy-girl, girl-boy, girl-girl). People need some one of their contemporary age as a close relation.
"Ok Karthik, how is this related to the post title?"
Wait wait, I am going to address that only now.
One of the reasons for this ‘one child’ policy is the late marriages happening these days. Boys tend to marry between 28-30 and girls during 26-28. There are proven research about miscarriages during 30s. When a girl, marries after 26, then she will probably give birth to the first child during 28-30. After that, 3 yrs gap for the next child is necessary. So the 2nd child birth ll happen only in 30s.
This is where the couples start thinking like what will be our age when the child attains an age of 20, Will I be able to settle these children before I retire and so on.
I think, the couples should give birth to 2 children before their early 30s for which the marriage should have been done when the guy is during 25-26 and girl during 23-24.
To quote example from my own family, Sudha got married at 24 and she has 2 children now. Even Latha got married at 24 but she had some other issue, so only 1. Kavitha got married during her late 26 and she got a baby just a month back (when she was 28). Now she is reluctant towards 2nd due to age factor.
This is just my personal opinion. You may completely agree, kind of agree or completely disagree . Whatever it may be, pls feel free to share your thoughts.
I know, some well-wishers of mine are now going to ask “Karthik, when is yours?” :)
Don’t worry. Application form will be available online, shortly ;)
The tune of Mudi Mudi (and all other versions) is something which only Ilayaraja can produce. A continuous wave like flow. The way charanam blends back to pallavi is brilliant! The way instruments are used largely differentiates each version
Gum Sum Gum - One more dimension to Thumbe vaa. Great guitar and piano works! (Hear all the older versions here)
Halk Ke Se Bole - Again I am stuck how come the old female solo beautifully fitted in this children chorus. I hope this song will see the screen at least this time. (Old Version is must hear)
Hichki Hichki - Complex rhythm pattern followed. Sheer brilliance of Ilayaraja. I like the rendition "Jaane Do na". Waiting to see the picturisation of this song [;)]
Paa Song - "Full Lights On [:D]" Kudos to Amitabh. This song should be the crowd puller.
Paa Theme- Grand orchestration! Have you guys ever heard these kind of music? I hope now you will stop saying Ilayaraja is some south Indian folk music composer. Should I mention whom I am referring as 'you'?
A wonderful album by Ilayaraja! Wishing the movie a great success!
No no, * doesn't refer some censored word. Being a techie [;)] I used * in the context that it refers to anything.
Inter national (Rajiv-Sonia), Inter state (all in Chetan Bhagat's 2 states fever), Inter religion (Jain-Christian why always hindu-muslim?), Inter caste (Mudaliar - Thevar), Inter sub-caste (Iyer - Iyengar), Inter sub sub caste (Vadakalai-Thenkalai).I heard there were marriages conducted between human beings and donkeys too.. Not sure [:P].
hoof..how many divisions? Yes, * really refers to anything.
The level of tolerance towards such marriages differs between individuals. Some are OK till inter caste but nothing more than that. Some are OK as long as both belong to India, thanks to IT.
But most of the Indian marriages are not Inter*.
This post is not trying to speak for one and ridicule other. There have been successful stories in both sides and for sure, failures too. I will just show the roots of issue and leave it to the discretion of readers to take a stand.
First let me tell how I perceive these divisions/groups/societies. It is something like the "Divide and Conquer" algorithm. Divide a bigger problem into smaller ones, solve each small problem so that the bigger problem automatically gets solved. Probably, that should be the reason for these divides. People belonging to a group will help each other for their welfare. Similarly if all the groups does that, the entire human race will prosper. In this angle, division is not a problem.
Problem starts when one society wants to improve at the cost of other. We don't know who started what. But the problem never ends. I will drag you down because you will any way drag me down. That is the mentality.
With this existing less tolerant social system, 2 people (obviously men and women, this post does not speak about homosexuals) start loving each other. Most of the times, those 2 will belong to different sides of the 'Inter boundary lines' their parents have drawn.
Why do parents draw those boundaries? In most of the cases, those boundaries are drawn to ensure that they and their children don't get neglected from the society or group they belong to.
Here comes the interesting scenario. All parents in that society draw that line, afraid of being neglected by others in their society. So a parent won't draw a line if there is no fear of neglect. This is the reality. "I am afraid of others but I am also an other to others". Got it? :) Come on Karthik, what a philosophy! It has to be inscribed in some monument ;)
Inter* marriages happening at high class families (very rich) and low class families (very poor) usually don't face much problems. One don't care much about others and other have better problems to think of. Only in middle class, this is considered as a big problem.
Now what should those 2 true(!?) lovers do?
If they go ahead and marry against the wishes of parents, they may have to face tough time. They would be happy of their marriage but bitter consequences have to be faced. There may be a situation where no one will be there to help that girl during her delivery. Whose group will the child belong to? Struggle struggle struggle. Even though they struggle. most probably, they won't stop their children from doing Inter* marriages. So if many more marriages of that sort happens, then the reluctance towards Inter* marriages will go off and the entire social system may change.
But should those 2 face such a long battle just for changing the social system? Rather, why don't they understand the reality and part away leading a smooth life with so many relatives, so many well-wishers from their communities. But chances are that they won't allow Inter* marriages of their children too with the same ground of being neglected. Whats the result? No change in social system.
There is no trade-off. Either live with an angel in hell or live with a ghost in heaven. Which one to choose????
How can I say? :)
But I want to tell one thing. Don't think, more Inter* marriages will lead to a division-less society. Groupism is human's nature. Lets say Inter religion marriages is accepted by everyone. Then new combo groups like HinduMuslim, ChristianHindu, JainMuslim will form and there will be again 2 lovers from 2 different combo groups trying to break this and such people will eventually form another group, say HinduMuslimJain and that may be called as a caste "HMJ" some centuries later. Breaking and making divisions is a cycle. You and me won't be alive to see all those transitions.
Feel free to post your comment :)
P.S: I have done lot of assumptions while writing this post. So if you are going to counter argue on something, I may possibly say that an assumption ;)
Many genuine girl profiles receive such non-sense scraps from some cheap guys. It is actually a shame to those guys and entire men community.
I have never seen a girl post such non sense thing in a guy's scrapbook.
When girls are so clever and controlled of not showing their dirty side ( IMO, All minds irrespective gender are dirty), why are you guys so foolish?
I usually call it a show off when girls put "Strangers pls stay away", "Fuck off strangers", "I don't accept friend request from strangers" etc. in their profiles.
But now I realise that most of them are not just show-offs.
P.S: Flirting is a different issue all together and this post has nothing to do with it.
This is a brilliant movie. It was more than my expectation. Theatre was House-Full. Nice to see people encouraging movies like this.
Jeyam Ravi has done a great job. Good homework. Typical forest officer from tribal community.
5 girls. They have done a decent job. A good amount of importance given to them.
The movie was taking a different trajectory in first half showing "girls' world" ( like Shankar showed Boys' world) and so many muted dialogues. But later, the movie was in track and from then, movie went at jet-speed.
Sateesh Kumar (Cinematography). No one in Tamil industry has shown forest, hills and rivers like you.Wonderful!
Jananathan (Director). This man is a wonderful director. Hats off for his hard work. Jananathan is known for showcasing things which were not touched erstwhile in Tamil cinema like harbour,sea life in Iyarkai; bio war in ee and now it is about hills,forests,tribes,rocket launch,girls' world in Peranmai. He is successful in educating the audience.
This movie could have been taken even better. But I am not asking anything more :) It is far better than Aadhavan and Kanden Kadhalai.
I went to theatre with high expectation that the movie will be very fresh. But disappointment at last!
Bharath just don't know what to do. He just stands dumb. He got confused whether to act the same way like Shahid Kapoor or be original. In that confusion, he didn't do anything. Bharath is still looking childish. He can act manu more Chellames. He dances like a good side actor (side dancer). He is not dancing like a hero.
Tamanna's negative is her face, especially mouth. This movie was showing her mouth very closely. Acting wise, she has done a decent job. If not Jyothika or Jenilia, only Tamanna fits in.
Sapan Saran as Tamanna's relative girl Roja. Vera nalla moonji kidaikkalaya ungalukku? Saranya Mohan would have fitted or even some other new south indian girl would have been perfect.
Sathanam is the hero of movie. Trying to replace Koundamani void and he is almost successful. Briliant timing!
Vidyasagar's songs were not bad. But the songs were show-stopper in the movie. The theatre shouted "Iyyo Paatta?" before each song.
Sun Pictures. Another bad movie from their banner. But they would some how make it a HIT. I hate Sun Pictures like anything
Siddu Plus Two First Attempt is a movie to be released, directed by Bhagyaraj. Audio got released few days back. Music by Dharan , Babu Shankar and Thaman S.
All the songs are ok. Very energetic.
One song 'Poove Poove' sung by Yuvan and Chinmayee is very nice to hear though it is little similar to Kadhal Kadhal Kadhalin fro 7G. The violin interludes are interesting to hear.
Sriranjani is one super active kid. No one can match her energy level. She ll eat camphor, draw something on walls, go and pinch Nambirajan..... Hoof. Uncontrollable kid!
Kids are also of same nature. They too give a lot of trouble and will always have our attention around them.
